Race traitor accusations for her, fun!Īt the movies, when you kiss your girlfriend before going to get popcorn, an old black woman will whisper into her ear that she is a “disappointment to her race” for choosing a white man over a black man. As an individual, you’ll receive lots of positive reinforcement for dating an “exotic” woman. Men (mostly white) will fist-pound you on the street. You’re going to be given weird congratulations for going “exotic” You’ll often be a surprise to friends of hers you’ve never met, and she’ll certainly be a surprise to many of yours. People will say things like, “Oh! I always knew you liked a little bit of chocolate,” or “So, you like your women like you take your coffee?” It’s going to be weird hearing your girlfriend described in terms of flavors or food. “You like your women like you like your coffee” jokes You and your beau will elicit a rainbow of reactions-of confusion, concern or admiration-from random passerby. You’re just the face of a rapidly growing demographic in America. You’ll have more conversations about this subject than you ever thought possible.
No matter if you’ve been together for five days or five years, you’ll be inundated with talk of hypothetical and oh-so beautiful mixed babies. Random strangers will encourage you to have sex in hopes that you’ll produce boys like Derek Jeter and girls like Rashida Jones. Get ready for everyone to talk about mixed babies Don’t worry they’re mostly old, uneducated bigots with an affinity for twisting bible verses. Some people may not “approve” of your new relationshipĪnd they’ll make that abundantly clear to you. Census Bureau and resulting analysis from PewResearch Center (PDF). As a white American male, you’re the least likely to marry someone outside of your racial group, according to the 2010 U.S. You’re a minority now tooĪnd you may be treated as such. Here, we share our totally unsolicited insights and advice. I’ve learned a lot from those relationships, as have my ex-boyfriends. But you’ll also be privy to an entirely new host of issues, situations and reactions that arise when dating someone of a different race or ethnic background-some are hilarious, some are sad, most are dumbfounding.Īs a mixed-race girl from the South, I’ve been the first woman of color who several white guys have dated-an interesting role to play. Like any relationship, it won’t always be sunshine, rainbows and mid-day BJs, and you’ll deal with your normal share of triumphs, trials and tribulations. While more common in today’s diverse world, your interracial relationship is still incredibly rare. First off, congratulations! You’ve earned the heart of a powerful, proud woman, and that’s pretty amazing.